It doesn’t matter how many times you get knocked down. As long as you get back up. Everyone listening to my voice has been down. Some of you are right now. Today I’m going to help you get back up.
Adversity is baked into the human experience.
Bad things happen to us beyond our control.
Bad things happen because of our choices (those can often be worse on our psyches).
Sometimes, we feel bad. Sometimes anxious
We get rejected.
Our plans fall apart.
Our kids make mistakes.
We lose things. We lose people.
And we go down.
Today I am going to Talk it up, so I want you to Listen up because I’m going to ask you to Toughen up while you Lighten up at the same time. Then we are going to Light it up, then Follow up and last, but probably most important I’m going to ask you to Look up.
If you do these things, you’ll get back up. I can’t promise it will be easy. I’ve been down and I know how hard it is to come back. If you are feeling depressed from self-blame, angry from blaming others, or both at the same time, I get you. I feel you. If you listen up, I think I can help you. It’s not pious platitudes from pop psychology class. It’s the shared experience of a friend who is probably only one or 2 steps ahead of you right now. I’m reaching out for you right now. Take my hand, lend me your ear for another 27 minutes, and let’s Get UP.
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News and Resources:
- The Housing market is officially in recession after 8 straight months of decline. The National Association of Home Builders and Wells Fargo produce a Housing Market Index, which measures a number of factors. Here are a few from the most recent report:
- Current Sales Conditions: Down 7 points
- Sales Expectations 6 mo: Down 2 points
- Buyer Traffic: Down 5 points
If you want to dig in, click here. https://www.nahb.org/news-and-economics/housing-economics/indices/housing-market-index
What does this mean? Since 2014 we have been in a great sellers market. We are now heading into a buyers market but we are not there yet. . Prices of land and materials are not going down, but home prices are backing off anyway as sellers adjust to decreased demand. It’s going to be good to have some cash late in 2022 or early 2023 because the opportunities start rolling in.
Talk it up
Your self talk can make all the difference in the world. Even though you know you don’t get everything right, there is one voice you will infallibly believe – your own. Now when I tell you to start talking it up, you may resist – not believing it’s really true. Keep saying it anyway. Because just like those Taco Bell commercials you’ve heard 140 times before thinking about trying the latest combination of meat, cheese, sauce, and tortilla flour, you WILL eventually begin to think that what you are hearing sounds pretty tasty.
Here are some things to say to talk yourself back up.
- “When I look in the mirror, I see the REASON – the cause of my failures, AND THE SOURCE OF MY COMEBACK.”
- “This is the hardest thing I’ve experienced, but if it were easier, I wouldn’t be growing.”
- “Man that was a stupid mistake. I’m the only human being who ever made a stupid mistake.”
- “Man I can’t believe I repeated the same mistake, I’m the ONLY HUMAN who has ever made the same mistake twice.”
- “It’s not over.” “This story isn’t finished.”
- dulcius ex asperis – sweeter after difficulty
Seek wise counsel
Get perspective (comes with distance and/or elevation, both metaphorically AND physically)
It takes exercise and a pounding to toughen up your body. But you can toughen up your skin by flipping a mental switch. Start there.
Stick and stones may break my bones but names never harm me. What people say to you, say about you, or say to or about anything in general are ONLY hurtful if you choose to be hurt by them.
Those who attack with ad hominem arguments do so because they have no logical arguments.
Never give them the satisfaction of thinking that their words have any effect. It’s worked on bullies for a long time.
The falls hurt less and less over time.
Choose to laugh.
Laugh at yourself – you’re hilarious. Ok, maybe not your jokes. But you are!
The only things that truly matter are those things that will be around 100 years or 1000 years from now. The earth, over which we are stewards, and other people.
How much angst do we feel and energy do we waste, worrying over things beyond our control and which won’t matter even one month from now?
See the humor in every harmless thing. And remember – words can be both powerful AND harmless.
Light it up
This is where you choose to get busy again. You’ve taken some time to consider your circumstances. You’ve chosen to grow from this experience. Now it’s time to get back on your feet and light up the world around you.
Psalm 121:1 I lift up my eyes to the hills– where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.
Faith would be easy if we could just see the path laid out for us. But if we could see everything and if there were no questions left, would it be faith at all? I believe God always provides enough evidence to affirm our faith but leaves enough questions so that faith is required.
What is the best, most lasting gift you can receive from a friend? It is their trust. The deepest bonds of love, affection, attraction, or any other quality are immediately broken when trust is breached. Trust is at the core of any relationship. I think this is why God bases our entire relationship with Him on trust. Without it, there is no relationship. With it, the depths of joyous communion are possible.
But it gets difficult doesn’t it? There are so many unanswered questions. Why is there evil in the world? Why does there seem to be no justice? How can humanity veer off in such dangerous, self-destructive directions? How could anyone possibly vote Libertarian?
When we look to the hills, and trust that God is watching over us and is our source of help. We WISH for the preventive miracle. We pray that the seeds we have sown will not grow and bear fruit. We hope that evil is stopped outside our gates. And when that sometimes does not happen – this whole faith thing gets tough.
But this is precisely the time faith is called for.
Hang on, get back up. Talk it up, get back up. Listen up, get back up. Toughen up, get back up again and again. Lighten up, get back up. Light it up, get back up, Follow up, get back up, Look up, get back up.
Your life is the tale of a person’s journey in getting back up. As you grow, the tests become more challenging, the hurts cut more deeply, and time and chance happen to all. But your story only has a tragic ending if there comes a day when rather than getting back up, you decide to give up. Please. I beg you. Get back up. One more time. And then one more after that. (repeat and fade out).
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[0:00] It doesn’t matter how many times you get knocked down as long as you get back up.
Everyone listening to my voice has been down and some of you are right now.
Today on Flipping America I’m gonna help you.
Bad things also happen because of our choices and sometimes that can be worse on our psyches.
We get rejected.
[0:45] We lose people,
And I know that some of you are there right now. Well, today, I am going to talk it up so I want you to listen up because i’m going to ask you to toughen up while you’d lighten up at the same time then we are going to light it up
Then follow up and last but probably most important I’m gonna ask you to look up,
If you do the things that I’m gonna talk with you about today you will get back up,
I can’t promise it will be easy I’ve been down and I know how hard it is to come back.
If you’re feeling depressed from self blame.
Have you listened up.
I think i can help you.
[1:49] Metaphorically picture this in your mind eye i am reaching out for you right now take my hand.
27 and a half minutes.
[2:21] Real estate. Wherever you are, whatever your situation, there is an opportunity for you and now,
Here’s that flipping America guy Roger Blankenship thank you Kathy Curtis hello America we’re gonna get to that topic just a minute and I’m going to help you get up,
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[3:58] Let’s see what else we also have here. Oh, news and resources. Let me find that new stinger. Where’d it go?
Officially in recession after eight straight months of decline.
The National House National Association of Home Builders and Wells Fargo in partnership have produced a housing market index which measures a number of factors.
[4:27] Here are a few of the most recent or free from the most recent report. Current sales conditions are down seven points.
Sales expectations down over for the next 6 months are down two points and buyer traffic is down five points,
So a lot of this has to do with consumer confidence and what’s happening a little bit with interest rates and so forth but,
Basically there’s a complicated scoring system that they use and this and if you wanna dig into and look at this report yourself your welcome to do it you can search for the U Wells Fargo Housing Market Index where you can come to our show notes,
[5:04] Pick up the link right there and also I think we’ll have this out on social media in the next few days. Okay, so or maybe today, I don’t know,
I don’t know what they do over there,
Since 2014 we’ve been in a great seller’s market we’re now heading into a buyer’s market we’re not there yet
And I’m not sure we’re gonna get there in 2022 but maybe prices of land and materials are not going down
But home prices are backing off anyway as sellers are adjusting to the decreased demand where’s the decrease demand coming mainly it’s coming from inflation and the raising of interest rates,
Be a good thing to have some cash as an investor and late 2022 or early 2023 because that’s when the real opportunity is gonna start rolling in. Now.
[6:06] I just wanna say also there’s never a bad time to buy a good deal.
And there’s never a good time to buy a bad deal,
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[7:49] In the introduction to the topic today I I kinda gave you the outline
Ears. This isn’t really public speaking. I’m sitting pretty much alone in the studio with you me and the microphone but one of the things we learned about public speaking was to tell them what you’re gonna say. Then say it and then tell them what you say it. So I am going to,
Repeat again what I’m going to say the topic for today is get up just get up.
Okay we’re gonna come back to some kind of fire up language about that in a minute but there isn’t outline and it’s this talk it up listen up tough enough lighten up light it up follow up and look up,
I’m gonna spend a few minutes now.
[8:42] Hey, you know, when you’ve suffered a devastating life blow,
Is to just get up like to get up the next morning to get out of bed to pull yourself up.
And if you’re in that frame of mind right now.
[9:03] I I wanna beg you please get up you’re gonna have to push it you’re gonna have to push yourself but please get up that’s the first step.
And if it’s at all possible get outdoors for a minute and breathe in some fresh air to take some deep breaths,
That’s a big part of getting up just get up one more time,
And the only way to avoid that is to avoid living and we don’t wanna do that but the other thing I wanna encourage you about is.
It’s the knockdowns and the getting back up that makes us stronger now,
Making a stronger making us better purifying us so like a refiners fire all those metaphors that you wanna use that’s not an end in itself.
[9:53] Because in the end.
When we arrive at peace when we get to contentment.
We can say.
It’s worth getting there.
I have had situations in my life that have taken years to resolve not days not weeks,
To resolve and if you had asked me at the start of that process if i thought i knew what was going on well
I would have told you yeah a lot of things I just said yeah that’s going on in you know I’m gonna emerge from this better on the other side but if you had told me it was gonna take years,
[11:21] I think I might have said no thanks I I think I’ll just stay right here stuck in this spot but that was not a good spot.
[11:46] Alright, first of all, talk it up.
[11:52] Even though you don’t know,
Saying, you know, we’re gonna get through this. We’re some of the words I’m gonna give you just a minute. You may resist, not believing it’s really true.
Keep saying it anyway because just like those Taco Bell commercials you had to hear 140 times before thinking about trying whatever their latest combination of meat cheese sauce and tortilla flour is
You’ll eventually begin to think that what you’re hearing sounds pretty tasty.
[12:46] Look in the mirror and say to yourself when I look in the mirror,
I see the reason does that sound familiar if you’ve ever been to one of our flipping America Ria events that’s part of the pledge the flipping American pledge you know where this came from
And you know and I’ve I’ve heard from hundreds of people saying that this pledge is really helped them in a time of crisis or a time when they were down. You know where it came from? It came from one of my deepest failures.
And so look in the mirror and say when I look in the mirror I see the reason
The cause of my failures and the source of my comeback and this is the difference between what I think you should say to yourself versus what a lot of the pop psychologist will say,
I think that they will basically want you to lie to yourself. They want you to tell, they want you to tell yourself, oh, you know, it wasn’t so bad or you know, I’ll soon get over this and so forth. I’m not gonna ask you to do that.
I’m gonna ask you to look at right in the eye.
And I want you to say to yourself, I am the cause of my failures and you say, well, somebody else did it. I can say that too.
[13:51] My biggest business failure in my life was because of the failure of one of my key employees.
I look in the mirror and realize first of all I shouldn’t have heard him and secondly I should’ve moved him along,
It is. I am the cause of my failures but don’t forget the last part of that.
End the source of my comeback i am the cause of my failures and the source of my comeback no one else will come back for you no one else is going to bring you back no one else is actually going to put weight on your legs and get you up
I am the source of my the cause of my failures and the source of my comeback then another thing I want you to say to yourself is this is the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced.
No, that sounds depressing. If you only say that part, then say the rest of it, but if it were easier.
[14:53] Yeah, I’ve never faced anything this hard. This challenging but.
If things were easier then they wouldn’t help me grow I wouldn’t be getting stronger I wouldn’t be getting to a deeper place in my life,
Here’s another thing that I want you to put into yourself talk if this applies man that was a stupid mistake.
I’m the only human being who ever made a stupid mistake,
I want you to say that.
Now look I’m not trying to get you to laugh at it I’m trying to get you to realize how silly it is to beat yourself up over,
Even if you make the same mistake twice.
[16:00] The next thing I want you to say to yourself.
[16:08] How can you know that? Well, can you take a breath and as you’re expelling the breath, say the words, it’s not over, or this story isn’t finished, as long as you could say that, it’s not over.
[16:20] It’s not over until it’s over.
Decision about when your life is over may not be yours to make.
[16:32] The battle to get back up.
[16:40] So, say to yourself, it’s not over.
You could say to yourself, man, I mistreated me.
I’m not the only person that’s ever made a mistake.
Just remember the phrase sweeter after difficulty,
Sweeter after difficulty. Man, it is gonna be so good to get through this and when I get through this, I will appreciate what I have even more.
[17:23] Mm hmm.
By listen up by me in sequese council.
And by sequese council I mean seek wise council don’t seek people,
Don’t don’t see counsel from the people that work for you don’t seek counsel from people preferably even your own age go for somebody who’s got a little bit more life experience
It maybe more experience in your career it may be just someone with more experience in life in general because you need to get,
I’ve observed that perspective comes with distance and,
You need to get some distance.
[18:13] Get above it like imagine yourself getting up into the sky and maybe flying in a hot air balloon and looking down on you and your problems and look at that look at them maybe from a third person perspective or a perspective,
That a wise person can offer you
You can go from a lot of different sources and if you don’t know anybody, then,
You know, go to your local library and check out some books and read and learn. Get on the internet. Just don’t trust everything that you read on the internet. You know, it’s a lot of snake oil salesman out there on the internet.
Start to learn just get perspective and and learn things and listen to what other people say about dealing with the problem do not
Try or think that you have to try to solve this all by yourself.
[19:13] It takes exercise and pounding to toughen up your body.
Metaphorically by flipping a middle switch.
And just start there, okay? When I was a kid, we had a little saying, sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never harm me.
Crazy stupid interpretations from I don’t know millennials or gen Z kids or whatever on the internet today,
Explaining the the meaning of this in a way that was never intended what this means is
People can say things about you they could say words to you and they don’t hurt unless you choose to let them hurt,
It is alarming to be okay it’s silly to me that you can.
[20:05] Truly be hurt wounded
Go into a deep dark depression just because of something that someone says to you that didn’t hurt.
That was just a word if it was mean if it was spiteful if it was ridiculous then they’re showing what they are,
And I’ve been I have any reflection on you. It may not be connected with you at all. It may be a reflection of what’s inside of them because out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
It’s only hurtful to you if you choose to let it be what I find ridiculous and,
Exhausting in this life now is people get hurt about.
Not even directed toward the person who got hurt but they get hurt because they just say those are hurtful words. You say, those are hurtful words. I’m hurt.
Oh my goodness. When will it ever end? It’s not going to. Well, it it will eventually end because,
No one can live like this. This is not sustainable. And,
I I would imagine there may be a few people listening to this right now who are hurt by what i just said you know what?
I don’t care.
Cut the skin. Words can’t hurt you. If you feel hurt over words, it’s because you have conditioned yourself to believe that those words hurt. Those who attack,
With Ed Haminum arguments do so that another words calling you names they do so because they have no logical arguments so they’ve revealed that they have already lost,
Never give a bully the satisfaction of thinking that their words are having any effect this advice has worked on bullies for a large,
A long time. Okay, toughen up everybody. Then, lighten up.
Choose to laugh.
And it is a choice,
Don’t wanna laugh at or the things that are designed to hurt other people but look that doesn’t mean that I don’t laugh the stereotypes.
I laugh at them I laugh at a lot of things and including jokes and words that some people would consider hurtful
That’s because the most humorous found in the shock value and if you if and and,
You know, have you seen the,
The latest the millennial gen Z version of humor it’s not funny.
[22:48] Alright. So, this Tuesday laugh. Laugh at yourself. You are hilarious after all. Okay, maybe your jokes are not funny but you are. Just laugh at yourself and and and here’s a way to help you lighten up a little bit, okay?
[23:02] I became convinced in my early 20s that the only things that truly matter in life
For those things that are gonna be around 100 years or a 1000 years from now.
And that would mean the earth over which we are stewards and other people
But how much eggs do we feel an energy do we waste worrying over things beyond our control which won’t even matter 1 month from now.
What a waste lighten up people see the humor in every harmless things and remember words can be both powerful and harmless.
Lighten up was where you choose a lap light it up is where you choose to get busy again,
Okay you’ve taken some time now to engage in self talk you’ve toughen yourself up,
Look back with and see a little human in your situation. Now.
[23:59] You’ve chosen to grow from this experience and it’s time to get back on the saddle and ride again get on your feet and.
Tell yourself you do feel like it tell yourself you do believe it’s time to get busy again and then get,
Get up and get busy again just do it quit wallowing around in self pity.
I know that sounds like tough love. I’ve had to say it to myself a few times.
[24:32] Next follow up,
That maybe you’re withholding from them for some reason I don’t have time to get into a whole long thing on relationships here.
[24:47] Follow up with the people in your life follow up with the projects in your life.
Do things get sideways and something you’re working on and a lot of other things fell by the wayside. Well, maybe time to jump back in there and,
And you know, see to the details and mind your character.
Your integrity for the things that you’re supposed to be doing and then the possibilities.
[25:13] With reason I bring up possibilities is
99% of which will never see the light of day or be acted on i have a lot of ideas when my brain is in a good place.
[25:31] And then I move them to the range of,
From the page to the I call it the warming oven and from the warming oven to the back burner and at once there in the back burner on the back burner we start looking at where to insert them in the schedule based on our ability to actually do them and then once we
Put them into the schedule,
Mind your peas and queues get get to all of the people projects and possibilities that you need to work on,
It’s but so I’m gonna take a couple minutes and I am gonna talk a little bit about faith and if you don’t share my faith please don’t be offended by what I’m about to say because if you take a fence by my words then that’s all you.
Remember what I just said? Alright
Where does my help come from my help comes from the lord to make her of heaven and earth you know faith would be easy if we could just see a path laid out for us but it’s,
If we could see everything and there were no questions left then why would there be any faith at all I believe God always provides enough evidence to affirm our faith but leaves enough.
[27:00] I could say that over and over a few times so you could fully grasp it. There’s enough evidence to affirm our faith but enough questions of faith is required.
It is there trust.
Or what about love? Well, the deepest bonds of love, affection, and attraction, or any other quality are immediately broken when trust is breached, agreed,
Yeah trust is at the core of
And I think that the entire basis of our relationship is trust fortunately.
And he leaves some questions so the trust is required.
[28:01] And there’s without this they the depths of the joyous type of communion.
But it gets difficult, doesn’t it? There are so many unanswered questions why is there evil in the world? Why does there seem to be no justice? How can humanity veer off in such danger self-destructive directions? How could anyone possibly vote libertarian?
Now only through that end because some of you might be thinking I was gonna say how could anyone vote democrat how could anyone vote republican I’m just not gonna get in all that but you can see how we have those big divides how can we be so divided if there is a god.
When we look to the hills and trust that god is watching over us is our source of help. We wish for the preventive miracle.
We pray for the seeds that we have sown will not grow in bear fruit we hope that evil will stopped outside our gates and when that sometimes does not happen the whole faith things get tough,
But this is precisely the time faith is called for
Get back up. Follow up. Get back up. Look up. Get back.
[29:21] It only is a failure if you just give up.
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